What About Your Friends
When you set out on the journey into yourself, along with finding your passions, you discover that some things no longer appeal to you. In that, you may discover that you are no longer content with some of your friendships. Inevitably we grow and mature into better people than we were when we first formed some of our most prized friendships. You and your friends have separate jobs and lives, even relationships that you have formed independently. Separate experiences only lead to separate mindsets. And this is where the water gets murky.
Bonds between people are typically forged because of shared interests; you discuss the same ambitions, agree on politics or you have similar religious beliefs. If you’re lucky, you spent many years cultivating and nurturing these friendships into solid connections. You and your best friends have seen the worst of and best parts of each other. Each of you is on a journey, but your experiences lead you down different paths. Then one of you takes the journey a step further and unavoidably, you grow apart. You begin to notice that conversations and interactions do not happen as organically as they once did.
The journey inward is hard and having to reassess your friendships adds another layer of difficulty to the process. You can either decide to sever those friendships or you can categorize them. By compartmentalizing your friendships, you free yourself from attachment and can accept that their limits are not your limits. Your friends can only support you as much as their limits will allow and it is not personal. It is up to you to navigate the new findings but I can say that it’s just smarter to limit your contact with those friends who no longer serve you. It may seem harsh but it is imperative to surround yourself with people who feed your spirit in a language that you speak. You will leave some people behind and that is okay. It is better for them to stretch to reach you than for you to shrink yourself for the sake of a friendship.